Always be wary of the silent killers in your
relationship. You are probably aware of the many common reasons that people in
relationships break up. You know about how many couples are rarely ever able to
survive cheating and infidelity. You know that many marriages end as a result
of financial mismanagement. You know about many relationships drawing to a
close as a result of physical abuse or violence.
And that’s good. You’re making yourself aware of
all the big things that you should definitely avoid in a relationship.
But what about the little things? What about the
What most people don’t understand about the
big things that go wrong in a relationship don’t just come about
instantaneously. Sometimes, these big problems come about as a result of
consistently bad patterns and habits that are repeated continuously over the
course of a relationship. For example, a simple bad habit that you have in your
relationship could be what drives your partner to become more distant towards
you. And as a result, they end up cheating on you.
That’s why you always want to make sure that you
make yourself aware of these bad patterns as much as possible. You always want to
be able to spot them out and make sure that you put a stop to them once you see
that they’re there. Ensuring the longevity in a relationship is always going to
warrant substantial attention to detail after all.
So, if you find that you are committing a lot of these bad habits in your relationship, then you might want to make a change so that you don’t end up killing the love that you have for one another.
Let those feelings out. Communicate with your
partner about your bad feelings even if it means having uncomfortable
discussions with them. It’s a lot better to have the occasional fight and
disagreement to bring the two of you closer together than to just keep your
negative feelings bottled up inside.
You should never try to change your partner into
someone they’re not comfortable with being. Yes, you want them to be the best
version of themselves. But you don’t want them to feel like they’re not enough
In a relationship, it should never be a
competition. It’s always bad if you feel insecure whenever your partner amasses
some success in life. Your partner’s success should also be your own success as
well. If you can’t be happy in your partner’s happiness over something, then
there’s something inherently wrong with your relationship.
You must always make a genuine effort to listen
to your partner. You never want them to feel like the stuff that they tell you
goes in one ear and out through the next. You never want to be walled off from
your partner. You always want to make yourself accessible and easy to talk to.
Jealousy and possessiveness is okay to a certain
degree in the relationship. You just want to be territorial and protective of
the love that you have. However, it also gets to a point wherein your jealousy
might actually get the best of you and be toxic for the relationship. You never
want that to happen.
You should never get into the game of comparing
your partner to other people. That’s wrong and uncalled for. You should be
seeing your partner for who they are regardless of how they might compare to
the people around you.
You should never engage in blatant acts of
dishonesty with your partner. You might think that a few white lies here and
there are okay if it’s totally for the greater good. But if you’re just lying
to get yourself out of trouble, then you know that you’re in the wrong here.
Your partner isn’t always going to do the right
thing in the relationship. And if they show genuine remorse for wrongdoing, you
need to find it in your heart to forgive them. You can’t be holding their
mistakes over their head. You can’t be holding on to ill feelings or grudges.
How is your partner ever going to know that you
are still in love with them if you don’t actually make an effort to let that
love be known to them? You must never be withholding of the love and affection
that you have for your partner in your relationship. Wear your heart on your